2009 New Year’s Resolutions
January 4th, 2009
I saw that Raam posted his 2009 resolutions, so I’m inspired to post mine. 2008 wasn’t the year of bad decisions, it was the year of inaction. It wasn’t the worst year I’ve ever had, but I let some things slip by that ended up screwing me or derailing my plans months after. I can’t let that happen in 2009.
Recently the New York Times ran an article saying that people never keep their new year’s resolutions, the corollary being that one shouldn’t even try. I’m comforted by the fact that these resolutions aren’t triggered by the new year, but because of two events: losing my green card, and cleaning out my old MIT papers. Because of the troubles and thoughts those brought about, I want to make two habit changes, and hopefully everything else will follow from that.
Habit Change #1: Knock tasks out of the park right away
I know at some point in my life I know I have to start living the “executive lifestyle”: Wake up at 4am and don’t stop working until 10pm. This is a transition that will take a really long time, so I’m starting out with a relatively small change: “batting tasks out of the park as soon as the pitch comes.” It’s a baseball metaphor my dad used once and it’s always stuck with me. The most successful people I know always do things immediately - no second-guessing, no scheduling to do it later. I have a tendency to put bills in a pile, to assume that certain processes will take weeks when they could get them done in one day, to procrastinate on easy tasks until one day before the deadline.
It took me a long time to figure it out, but I know with certainty that the reason why I put things off is because I don’t like bad outcomes. When I lost my green card I should have renewed it right away, but on the application to replace a lost card there were the big fat words, “IF YOUR APPLICATION IS REJECTED.” So I told myself I didn’t have the money to get it done (it is an expensive process though) and I put it in a pile and didn’t think about it. I also convinced myself early on that since it would take a long time I wouldn’t be able to go back home. Once I did send in the application there were no issues, and in fact, getting a new card is a quick process (about a month and a half). However, I didn’t have it by Christmas time and I didn’t go home and I spent one of the crappiest winter breaks ever. Letting the pitch go by burned me. Lesson learned.
Habit Change #2: String together good days
They say change takes 21 days, but I like to thing that change is kinda like bowling. In bowling, you could have two games with the same amount of strikes, but the game that has the most strikes back to back gets the most points. Stringing together “good days” builds momentum, and one’s more likely to have the motivation to work hard after a day of work than after a day of rest. I know this because I’m always really wired the day after taking a test - after spending a week studying I still want to study some more.
Go back to MIT
Over the winter break I cleaned out all my old papers. It’s something that I hadn’t done in 3 years. I’ve moved a lot since, and a pile of papers grew into a couple of bins. I found some important documents and evidence of times and places where I made mistakes, but what angered me the most were the dates I saw on the MIT documents. I found registration forms, tests with really good scores, tests with really bad stores, and it was kinda sad. If I were to tell 19-year-old me what I’d be doing now he’d be shocked. I don’t feel like I haven’t done anything the last 3 years, but I do feel like I’ve moved without direction, Time has gone by just so fast, and I have no idea how it happened. I’m so angry that I’ve let so much time slip away. This is also an area where not knocking things out right away has burned me. I have a requirement to fulfill before I go back and since I haven’t done it it looks like it’s going to screw me for the spring semester.
Back when I was in middle school I was afraid that I would be homeless. I just didn’t know how I was going to have the motivation to maintain my own life. Now I realize that I’m smarter and I can work harder than most people, and even without trying and never finishing MIT I’ll be more successful than even most college graduates. I think that’s been the problem. I’ve had a very easy life and I haven’t felt the need to make changes, but I don’t want to walk that path anymore. After MIT there will be even more school to go through, so I have to get this done.
Become a US Citizen
Losing my green card showed me how vulnerable my stay in the U.S. is. Even though I was born in Mexico, I grew up here, my life is here, English is my first language and other Mexicans don’t think I’m Mexican, so might as well make it official. I’ve been procrastinating on this for too long.
Get back my social life
Another thing I’m not sure how I let it happen, but over the last 3 years my group of close friends got reduced to Andre and Ravi. I’ve been looking back at my high school yearbook and old pictures from MIT and I realize that I used to be gregarious. Now I’ve been demure, pissed off at new people for some reason and kinda boring. I like soccer, clubbing, concerts, playing guitar with other people, snowboarding, etc… I haven’t done those things in a really long time. Happiness is a state of mind, but I realize now that I’m not the kind of person who can turn it on like a light switch (and yes, I know lots of those kind of people, they’re annoying and they work at Starbucks). That means that I have to invest my time in those things that will make me happy. After all, that’s what life is for.
Get back in shape
In high school, I used to run a 5:20 mile and my best time for 3-miles was 18:24. It’s so sad that I’m nowhere near that. My weight is probably the second, if not the first, issue that I need to fix this year. I’m still not sure what my workout routine is going to be, but I’m going to be meeting with a nutritionist this month. I had a checkup last November and my doctor was amazed by the fact that I was so healthy, because by first impressions I really shouldn’t be. He also told me, in a very, very Indian way, “You will stop eating rice, you will stop eating pasta, you will stop eating starches, and you will start eating better.” It was kinda like Yoda was speaking to me. To paraphrase, “Do, there is no try”. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to give those foods up completely (I love Indian rice), so I plan to eat better during the week, and then eat less reasonably during the weekends.
Travel to Japan and start using Japanese more
私は 今年の夏に 日本へ 行く つもり です。 十五かげつごろ 日本語を べんきょうしています、でも 私の 日本語 わるい です。 それで、 毎日 べんきょうする よてい です。
And lastly, Build Wealth
I started to save money last year because I want to go to Japan, but I’m starting to realize now how crazy it is to through life without a safety net, and I’ve been tempting fate ever since I left home for college. What happens if for some reason I’m laid off, or if something happens to my dad, or if something happens to my family in Mexico? Currently I’m not prepared to handle any of these scenarios, and that’s just insane. I’m also really tired of being without money at the end of the month.
So those are my “resolutions”. I think if I’m able to accomplish these things 2009 will be a very exciting year.
